What really happens when we shift from rescuing clients to releasing responsibility?
Most of us would deny we ever rescued a client. We faithfully recite the statement, “We believe our clients are resourceful and they have the answers inside of them.” However, when the stakes are high, we are tempted to step in and expand awareness for them. We think we are simply helping by sharing a story, providing a bit of information, or suggesting alternatives in hopes that our efforts wake people up to better outcomes or solutions. The reality is the opposite often happens. When we step in, we take away their opportunity to discern what is important, discover their path forward and develop self-efficacy and resiliency. This keeps them playing small in the world and limited to the information we imparted on them rather than them stumbling and learning from each experience. In addition, it greys the lines of coaching impacting our personal credibility as well as the validity of the entire field.
We invite all people committed to assisting others in living out their preferred narratives to release responsibility of knowing the answers. Your clients, employees, friends, family members might first falter but eventually they find their way to a greater story.
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