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Writer's pictureJennie Antolak

The Magic in the Mess

How Mistakes Can Be the Recipe for Failure or Success


Mistakes often show up as unwanted guests, leaving us questioning our worth or feeling like we've failed. But what if these so-called “failures” are actually essential ingredients in the recipe for growth and success? The surprising truth is that we can’t truly value success until we’ve tasted a bit of imperfection. It’s in those moments of “messing up” that we plant the seeds of transformation. Yet, we rarely give ourselves the grace to linger in that space of “not quite right” long enough to see the magic it's stirring up. With a bit of patience, what feels like a stew of imperfection might actually be simmering into something rich, flavorful, and unexpectedly sweet.


How can we start to view our mishaps as something more than mistakes? Sometimes, the simplest answer is, "Sleep on it." It’s amazing how a problem that seems overwhelming at night can soften into something manageable by morning. But sleep isn’t the only solution—each of us, or those we coach, can find unique ways to ease the discomfort that comes with mistakes. To gain clarity, the questions below can help uncover the “knowing” hidden in every mishap.


Reflecting on Challenges Over Time

What significant challenges have you faced along the way, and how would you title each one?

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  • Past MonthChallenge:

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  • Past YearChallenge:

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  • Past 5 YearsChallenge:

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  • Past 10 YearsChallenge:

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Diving Deeper into the Story Behind the Mishaps

  • What genre is your storyline? (Adventure, drama, romance, comedy, self-help, mystery, thriller, sci-fi)

  • What did each event enable you to see differently?

  • How did it reveal what you’re made of?

  • What magic—like insight, creativity, resilience, or resourcefulness—did you discover in the mishap?

  • How do your answers shift the titles of these challenges?

  • How do these new titles change the genre of your story?


Shaping Your Story for the Future

  • Who do you want to “be” the next time a mishap comes knocking? How will you take a stand for the identity you desire?

  • What will your future self question? What will they embrace?

  • How might this allow you to see, hear, feel, and experience things differently?

  • What steps can you take now to start crafting the story that’s waiting for you, mishaps and all?


By reframing our mishaps as valuable experiences rather than mistakes, we open ourselves to the possibility of growth and transformation. Instead of focusing on what went wrong, these reflections allow us to discover new strengths, create meaning from challenges, and shape a story we’re excited to live. So here’s to uncovering the hidden brilliance in every so-called “mistake”—the magic is waiting!

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